Published: Condom education in the military

…if you’re going to spread the fruits of your genital love, be smart about it.

February 14th, 2013 one of the military publications I read, The Herald Union, printed a half page article on sexual responsiblity (page 15) and health through the use of condoms. I was floored! Like, holy cow wow, really? I’d never see this in the American South because of the region’s ultra conservative perspectives about sex. (and yet I’m moving back so go figure) I’m thrilled that the military took steps in educating (and/or reminding) soldiers about condoms. Sure, the men and women who serve our country probably already know about condoms but like good manners, a reminder doesn’t hurt.  It’s just smart and why be anything less when you don’t have to be?

Below is a photo of the comment I made which made it into print! (page 2) I’m a bit ear to ear smiles on it and very grateful the editor choose to publish it along with an opposing comment. These two different perspectives on the same topic are as diverse as can be.  Yet, I feel it’s important to stress that Planned Parenthood is not – and I repeat “is not”- an abortion clinic but a place women go to plan their parenthood options - opposed to just getting knocked up and claiming God wanted them to have babies. Pregnancy must be created more responsibly than that.

Planned parenthood also provides basic healthcare to women who cannot afford it.  If they cannot afford to care for their own healthcare, how are they going to afford the cost of parenthood?  Planned parenthood shouldn’t even be considered a “controversial organization” as healthcare for women shouldn’t sit on a controversial throne!  Try the banks, Congress, auto industry, pharmecutical companies, and the producers of chemicals which go into our foods.  Now those are are controversial organizations, not Planned Parenthood.  Take a look at the extensive services PP offers, including a section on men’s sexual health. That’s excellent and deserves extra noting.

I, of course, did an oversell on the article’s positivity. This is because 1) I mean every word and 2) if you’re going to spread the fruits of your genital love, be smart about it. If you’re going to be chaste, keep the condom education out of your life but not out of the lives of men and women who serve our country in order that anyone may enjoy the freedom to state an uneducated opinion and create controversy where none logically need not be.

Be smart and use condoms. Be smarter and use other forms of birth control with it.  Then have great sex and enjoy.

The link to Herald Union is in the text.

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Photo:Evening Inspirations…

Hot, I think…
Enjoy your evening.

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Photo: Shakespeare on love

“Cupid Blind”

Love looks not with the eyes,

but with the mind, And therefore

is winged Cupid painted blind. ~ William Shakespeare

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Photo: Mermen as studs (kind of)

When walking through Wiesbaden, one never knows what kind of crazy stuff will be seen!  Take a look at these hot mermen ornaments.  Are they fantastic or what?!  Not sure where they’d be fantastic exactly cuz not at my house, but I’m sure they’d hang quite well in someone’s place… South Beach or San Francisco comes to mind.

Merman stud #1

Merman stud #2

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Philosophy: Discipline and the sex drive

Did you hear about the 9 year old girl who gave birth in Mexico? Crazy and so unfortunate.

I can’t help but go back to sexual philosophy as it triggers that part of my mind… and society and the absolute power the sexual drive has over people while various institutions try to mold and control it, make it into something which appeases their own fears. In the Mexico case the perpetrator is suspected of being a 17 year old, hardly an age where self control sits. For these young men (boys, really, in my mind), a penis is the disco stick while sex is the John Travolta moves. So, I wonder why this is so, this lacking self control when it comes to sex for many people because it’s not just a young male problem.

Discipline is the mighty key to pretty much everything. Of course, this is also among the hardest to practice and everyone reading this, as me, is equal enough in the sense that we struggle with some kind of discipline in our lives. Society makes sex complicated because it is so attached to the man-made morality created by religious teachings.

If you control the sexuality of another, you control their very core. We are sexual beings first and foremost. We are not born to live to learn lessons or to appease God. We are here to reproduce, evolve. Everything else just gives us purpose for our purposelessness. The cause which brings us purpose becomes our loyalty and so we create meaning where there was only potential at its essential form.

Going back to 9 year old mothers… remember too that centuries ago it was acceptable to rape a teen girl and impregnate her and claim her as wife property. In our day and age we understand its ill-effects and so we’ve evolved through the very nature of our humanity, our progression and the lessons learned along the way so we can make them better (hopefully) for future generations. So in essence, we’ve done exactly what we needed to do: reproduce and evolve (cliff notes). Everything else is a time filler (novel).

Morality is complex. Love is complex. Sex is not. It is very sad children must deal with any horrors but let’s not forget about the many 13-20-something year old girls in all sectors of culture, social and economic status who get knocked up and made to give life in exchange for theirs. We might as well throw the girls into the volcano, yet we find ways to cope, to accept and even to justify such action because after all, we create worship in the very potential of giving new life a chance even if the sacrifice is depriving females healthier, more sound options.

The sexual drive is incredibly strong. You know this. The only force that can stop it is discipline.  The more aware we become of our conscious mind, the more potential there is at becoming disciplined and then we create self control. We often react to another’s lack of it; however, self-control is a gift. If you didn’t get that gift, you have to work for it. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news.

However, the good news is that the best solutions begin with the self. You have to know your weakness in order to create a strength instead, or the weakness becomes the standard. As a humanity our greatest weakness is a standard lower than what can in reality be achieved because humanity in general lacks its own self-control. But, as long as we practice various methods to discipline intentionally, consciously and authentically, we will get there and evolve.

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New Painting: “Be Mine.”

Valentine’s Day is coming up. I had to bring out a little nudity.

…yeah, and again, I love the colors. In the case of this painting, the color around her is what makes her pop! Love it!

“Be Mine is painted on a 13×19 canvas sheet with acrylics.

“Be Mine” Acrylic on 13″x19″ canvas sheet

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New Painting: My Valentine

Presenting my newest painting, “My Valentine”!  I love the colors and brightness with the right dose of play and hidden delights.  Just in time for Valentine’s Day.  Who wants to buy?   Write me.

“My Valentine” Acrylic on Canvas / 50 cm x 60 cm

…and a close up.

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Diary: Can we cut the line?

I’m ready to leave Europe. It feels like everything that had to finish did finish, except the contract that has us here another year, 10 months exactly before we have to ship the first car to ensure it’s waiting for us in Atlanta because of customs reasons. It arrives on port 2 hours from our home but politics requires we drive 4 hours inland to Atlanta for pick up. Modern business. Go figure.

My job has kept me so busy I was actually happy my little one was vomiting yesterday morning as it required I take the day off. OMG. Overload! It took me all day to clean and do laundry and I mean, non-stop all day. I thought about a few days at work when it was non-stop all day, so busy you hardly have time to eat, or worse: pee! Interesting difference between the two worlds.

I deal with other people’s shit in the workplace so I can get money to get x which satisfies a need or want. Easy exchange. In the motherhood department I deal with other people’s shit so I can be reminded of how useless it is to tell the teens to clean their room, or anything else domestically based for that matter to get a thanks for all the hard work you do – maybe – later in life like when I’m on my deathbed. Everyone is wonderful when they’re dying.

Parenting teens is worth advocating a one child avenue. For people interested in getting a taste of parenthood, it’s perfect. The workload thereafter is exponential and when a woman adds a job (versus a flexible business), its almost impossible to keep it all going without a firm and large support network, or a family who acts as a team.

Being a woman is tough. I don’t know why men would ever think we’re the second sex when it’s always what we have that they want.

…I got sidetracked off the leaving Europe thing but forgive me, it’s Saturday morning and the mice are asleep and I’m waiting for my thyroid hormone pill to kick in before I can have my coffee. I’ll come back to it.

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Model Feature: Lenka’s first shot

I’ve been editing photos for deadlines all day but I have to take a short moment to show you a recent photo shoot I had with Lenka.  She’s got a great personality, lots of smiles but in front of the camera it’s sexy bombshell.  A good model is like a good actress: she knows how to turn it on when the in the spotlight.

As life’s surprises would have it, this picture was the first I took of Lenka.  Rare that the first is the favorite.

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Model Feature: Helena’s Girl Power

On Sunday I had a photo shoot with a couple of Czech models, Helena (below) one of them.  She’s another bright woman who used her sexuality to her advantage.  Oksana was the first I introduced to you here.

Helena owns a very successful European modeling agency and very soon will post her new blog about the modeling industry and her life.  I’ll bring that to you as soon as I have the link. I’m very excited about it because it won’t be written in Czech as I expected but instead it’ll be written in English and German.  This means I can read it and so can you!

Helena is an awesome woman with whom I’ve worked with in the past.  She’s among the best in her class. As a wife to a French photographer and a long-time model herself, Helena exercises everyday to keep herself fit – “Ten minutes! Ten minutes a day is all you need” – and pinches her nostrils if she must when drinking one of her green concoctions from the juice bar. “It has so many nutrients that are good for you,” she said.

While she’s found adjustment to having a three-year old challenging, Helena keeps focused on balance … while also running her own agency and pursuing a degree in psychology.  Girl power.

Love this photo.  Very corporate sexy, don’t you think?

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